Sunday, 12 January 2025
The #KayGoesUltra Diary: Week Two
The #KayGoesUltra Diary: Week one
Monday, 15 January 2024
Re-evaluating doesn't mean failing
We’re what feels like 18 weeks in to a 50-week January –
when in reality it’s two weeks since I wrote my blog post outlining my
exciting, challenging and ambitious goals and targets for the year.
Have I kept on track for them all?
No
Am I any less excited and motivated for the year?
Also no.
Let me explain why.
I could be in a few different headspaces after the first couple
of weeks of the year. I’ve spent a bit of time down with a chest infection that
I’d been fighting off for weeks for one thing, and for another, it took me just
12 days to change my mind about holding off the alcohol for an extended period.
As a result, it would be really easy, and quite
understandable, for me to be beating myself up, full of self-pity and regret. But
that mindset really wouldn’t be helpful, for so many reasons.
Instead, I’m focusing on the positives and everything that’s
gone well so far.
Running
The chest infection and resulting days of rest really wasn’t
ideal. I haven’t been fully well since the start of December with a nasty cough
lingering on all over the Christmas period. But it had been manageable – until last
weekend. I set about what was supposed to be a long-ish Sunday run and had to
abandon it just before one mile in because I really didn’t feel well and
thought I was going more harm than good. Despite a trip to the Doctor the next
day and his prescription for rest and anti-biotics for the rest of the week, I couldn’t
help feel a mixture of worry and also FOMO at not running for the next few days
when Des and my friends and fellow marathon trainees stacked up their weekly
milage.
By Thursday, feeling loads better I decided I’ve had one last
rest day to be on the safe side, then go big on Friday to bank some miles. I set
off before 7am and worked my way through 10 miles with an excellent Spotify
playlist for company, finishing up in a respectable time and giving myself a well-needed
confidence boost and much needed endorphin top-up.
Drinking
Then there’s the drinking side of it – my train of thought
on Saturday, and what lead me deciding to enjoy a drink with my friends. We were
on the annual DOrunning winter away day, which is always quite a boozy affair,
so I knew it was going to be a challenge. Normally, we do parkrun then head to
the nearest pub for breakfast and a pint before setting about bar-hopping
around London for the rest of the day. This year was no different on the face
of it, apart from the fact my breakfast came with a pint of diet coke and for a
good chunk of the day I enjoyed soft drinks while Des and some of my friends
opted for their alcoholic drinks of choice.
And to be honest, it didn’t bother me as much as I thought
it would do. I thought every order would be a battle of wills in my head, but
it really felt pretty simple. Then, a good few hours into the day, I started to
weigh things up a little bit. On similar days in the past, by this point I’d
have been a good five-or-so pints in. But this time, the thought came to me
that I could enjoy a couple of drinks at this point without tipping the balance
and taking it too far.
So I did just that! I savoured a few pints in the last
couple of bars we went to, then got some wine for the train which I enjoyed
during the journey without feeling the need to finish the bottle ‘because I’d
started it’. Regardless, I still got up on Sunday morning, took Stanny on his
morning walk before joining some fellow DOrunners for a nice 10km run, so no real
impact on what I’d have done had I not had a drink on Saturday.
Onwards
If working in marketing has taught me anything over the
years, it’s that targets and priorities are made to be revisited and tweaked,
and I’m going to tweak that big drinking goal I set myself. I’m not seeing it
as a failure but I’m just changing the goalposts a bit without letting it impact
what I’m ultimately trying to achieve. So instead of not drinking at all, I’ve
got a couple of days lined up that I’ll be having a couple of drinks – and enjoying
them without guilt!
As for the running, I’m a little bit behind my target, but
the hard work I’ve put on the days I have been well enough to do so means that
I’ve not got too much work to do in the second half of the month. I should still
fairly easily hit the 80 mile mark and be on-track (hopefully even get ahead) for the
rest of the year.
It’s all a little bit more topical because I write this
today on “Blue Monday”, supposedly the most miserable day of the year. And while
I know it’s not so simple for everyone, I find keeping your mindset as positive
as possible is one of the best ways to banish those January blues!
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| A lovely day! |
Monday, 1 January 2024
Out with 2023 and in with 2024
What do I want?
So, my running targets:
The non-running targets
Thursday, 6 July 2023
You missed out on a ballot place, so now what?
It’s the same every year – whether it’s your first time or your fifteenth. You enter the ballot full of hope, anticipation and maybe a bit of anxiety in April then put it to the back of your mind and get on with your life until results day rolls around.
Then, full of the same mix of emotions, despite saying you’re chilled about it and not going to, you spend all day refreshing your emails until it finally lands in your inbox. The ballot result.
If you’re one of the very, very small minority who receives the coveted ‘yes’ email, congratulations! You’re starting the journey towards what’s going to be one of the most amazing days of your life – I know, I’ve had that day three times now.
For the rest of the pot, it’s the not-surprising-yet-still-disappointing ‘no’ email. When this happens, you’ve got a few options for what to do next.
You might do nothing – if the no email wasn’t actually too disappointing for you, and gave more of a huge flood of relief, then you’ll likely end your marathon journey here without thinking too much more about it. That’s fine, only 1% of the global population have done a marathon after all, so this is probably the most popular option.
But if you’ve got your heart set on doing that 26.2, you need a plan.
First, you need to decide if it’s the London Marathon and only the London Marathon you want to do. If it’s more about achieving the distance, what comes next on the plan is quite a bit easier. There are heaps of fantastic alternatives both in the UK and globally to get your teeth stuck in to. A couple of things I’d put on your list to consider when choosing which alternative to do:
How much will you want crowd support?
If you know you’re the kind of person who thrives on running through spectator-lined streets and will struggle with long, fairly solitary country lanes, then you need to make sure you’re picking one of the bigger, city based events such as Manchester or Brighton, for example.
Is April the best time of year for you?
Now you’re not tied to the third weekend in April, you could have a think about whether you might prefer to train over the summer – and give yourself a few extra months to bank the miles too. Consider any major life events you've got that might hinder your training...I learned the hard way last year that wedding planning and marathon training aren't very easy to run in tandem!
Do you fancy a bit of running tourism?
Combining the marathon challenge with a few days in another country is really special. Whether it’s a return visit to get a new view on a favourite holiday destination, or a trip to explore somewhere new completely, there’s hundreds of marathons to choose if you widen your search area
What are the cut off times?
While London is known for its particularly generous cut off times, other marathons aren’t quite so. And I could write a whole separate post on the subject of cut off times, but for now all I’ll say is, you’ll feel enough pressure on the day as it is, without needing the worry of whether you’ll manage to cover the distance in the time allowed, so it’s always worth a quick check before signing up to make sure you’re confident you’ll be able to do it.
If you’re thinking all this sounds great London is the only marathon you want to do, then you’ll need a charity.
Of course there’s championship and Good For Age schemes to get you in, too. But by the time the ballot is announced, these schemes have generally closed for the year. And let’s face it, with all the best will in the world, these methods aren’t easily achievable to the bulk of runner – that’s kind of the point.
A lot of people are put off from going down the charity route because of the fundraising targets required. And while I’m not saying it’s easy, you can do it, if you’re prepared to put a bit of effort it. Plus, if you truly are desperate to do the London Marathon, then you’ve just got to accept it.
I’ve ran the London Marathon for charity three times now, plus a bunch of half marathons and various other challenges. Fundraising requires time and commitment, but it’s so worth it – both for the chance to do some really cool stuff, but also for knowing you’ve made a difference to somebody some where’s life. It’s a nice feeling.
Back to the practicalities, here’s my five top tips for getting a charity place.
1. Don’t just pick one charity
The likelihood is that the charities will all have their own application process, so you won’t be guaranteed a place. I’d recommend drawing up a list of four or five charities you’d like to run for, and think about your reasons why. A quick Google search returns pages of results for charities who’d like you to join their team choose a few who have values similar to yourself – not only will this give you something to talk about honestly in your application form, but it will help to motivate you through the months of fundraising ahead. The first time I did London, I ran for Girlguiding, a charity I’ve been involved with for most of my life, so it was a natural fit.
2. Research smaller charities
While there’s loads of obvious household names you could go for, there’s often much less competition for some of the smaller charities who have places so don’t just go for the big names. Sometimes, the fundraising targets are a bit smaller too. The second and third times I ran London, I did it for Childhood First, a smaller charity based in the south of England. From my experience with London and other events, when you run for a smaller charity you have a much more personal relationship with the fundraising team which is lovely – and you know that every single penny your raise really makes a difference.
3. Spend time on the application
You’re getting ready to commit a good few months of your life to training for the marathon, so be prepared to commit a reasonable amount of time to writing your application. Like when you apply for a job, you should tailor each application to the charity you’re applying to. Talk about why you admire their work, why it’s important to you, and any personal experiences you’ve had with the causes they stand for. Really let your passion stand out, use emotive language and don’t be afraid to be a bit cheesy. Remember, the person or panel reading your application will probably be reading a big pile of them, so you don’t want to be just another “I’ve always wanted to run the London Marathon”… be specific, tell them why you want to run…and why they’re the charity you want to run for.
4. Have a solid fundraising plan
Most applications will ask how you plan to raise the money. Charities pay a significant amount for the places, so they need to be confident you’ll raise enough to make it worthwhile them awarding you a place. I find, the best thing to do here is outline a month-by-month plan of activities you’ll do to keep the donation pot filling.
It doesn’t have to be all elaborate charity balls and galas every month, it can be as simple as doing a payday pound drive in August, chocolate raffle in September and sponsored sober October. In fact, it’s best to have a mix of smaller scale actions combined with a few bigger events during your fundraising period to really make the most of it. Don’t forget to note how much you’d expect each to raise and make sure that tallies up to the total target!
5. Be prepared to get out of your comfort zone
This ties in everything, and it stands not just for the application, but the whole journey you’re about to embark on. Marathons are hard work, they require commitment and dedication. You’ll be shattered from the training then need to plaster on a smile and work a room selling raffle tickets. Nobody likes asking for money, but you’ll need to get comfortable with it if you’re going to raise a few thousand pounds for your charity.
But it’s so, so worth it.
I wasn’t exaggerating when I said London will be one of the best days of your life. It’s hard to really describe quite the sense of achievement you’ll feel when you cross that line next April, glowing in a mixture of sweat and satisfaction.
Do yourself proud, good luck!
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| That finish line feeling! |

